Why does love always seem better in the movies?

As you’ve probably guessed it by now, I’m a twenty-something single gal trying to make it into the world of show business. If ya haven’t guessed it, you weren’t paying close enough attention.

We all still want that fairytale romance so why do we pretend that we don’t? And as the saying goes, what’s a great life without someone to share it with? I have definitely felt like Season 1 Caroline in The Vampire Diaries. Sometimes it seems impossible to find genuine connection and like there is always a competition with other women and having to try so hard to be seen for who you are.

Dating in 2023 sucks so much. It is so much easier just to find someone to sleep with then have them open up their heart to you. I don’t like playing games. I don’t like pretending not to feel whatever it is that I feel in that moment but how else do you get to know someone these days? You have to play the games and act like you aren’t interested just to keep the other person interested. It’s so exhausting and that’s why I don’t really date anymore. I want deep conversation, romance, passion, the staying up late listening to music or the quiet of each other’s company. Does that even happen anymore or is it just in the movies?

Give me a good romance-adventure-fantasy story any day because I know there will be a great ending. Give me an enemies to lovers scenario with a twist because those are my favorite. In every great love story there always that one moment where something is somehow left unsaid. But there’s always at least 10 minutes left of the movie for the main characters to get that moment right.The epic moment with the right soundtrack playing in the background building up the moment we’ve been waiting for. But that’s nothing like real life. A lot of things get lost in translation when you don’t simple talk about it. Until people aren’t afraid to communicate there will be a lot of love lost and lonely nights.

I’m secretly still holding my breath for that epic love story first kiss that leaves you breathless. Still hoping for that whirlwind romance that makes all the past heartache worth it to get to bliss. That “Chuck and Blair” (Gossip Girl), “Stefan and Elena” (The Vampire Diaries), “Hardin and Tessa” (After), “Noah and Nick” (My Fault), “Noah and Allie” (The Notebook), and “Pacey and Joey“(Dawnson’s Creek), kind of love.

Have you ever noticed that some of the best love stories seem to be written by women? And they almost always get a good ending? Because we know exactly what we want. How the guy should be, what he should say that would get the girl. ..At this point shouldn’t men just trust women when we are literally telling you what we want? And respect to the women in the writer’s room that take the story in a better direction than what was originally written because it makes more sense for the characters.

Now, what I really want to know is what writer has been working on my story? Cause I have enough exposition, plot twists, character development, and self-discovery to win an EGOT. If you’re spiritual you may think that you’re the writer on your own story and just living it out on a separate timeline. You could be right but I also believe some things are just in the hands of time, God, and the universe. But sometimes that just doesn’t seem to be enough to endure the agonizing wait.

So come on universe. We twenty-somethings want our happy ending too.

XO,

Nina.