Let me tell you something that might surprise you.
At 30, I thought I’d have it all figured out by now.
The dream career, the perfect balanced relationship. The perfect house, the perfect car, the perfect life. Isn’t that how it goes when you’re a kid? You think how easier life would be when you’re a grown up?
But the truth? I’m still writing my story. I’m still adjusting my crown. And I’ve decided to fall in love with the journey, not just the destination.
Because being a bad bitch doesn’t mean you’ve got it all together. It means you keep showing up—even when you don’t. Maybe that’s one of those gems that I often wondered about as a kid because adults always seemed so put together and when you get older you realize it was a facade and nobody really has it all together all the time and that’s okay.
I’m Dreaming While Working a 9 to 5
Let’s talk about the real:
I’m working a 9 to 5 while chasing my creative dreams.
That balance? It’s not easy. It’s exhausting. Some days I question everything. But I remind myself that this is temporary. This is the building phase. This is the part that makes the hook of my story unforgettable.
“Remember when I used to clock in for people who didn’t respect me? Now I call the shots.”
It’s coming. I feel it.
And in the Meantime… I’m Not the One.
Even while I’m building, I still have to let these managers know I’m not the one to fuck with.
Some people think that because you’re in a support role, you’re supposed to shrink yourself. Stay quiet. Take the mistreatment and smile through it.
Absolutely not.
I’ve had to advocate for myself. Speak up. Set boundaries in spaces where I wasn’t expected to.
And yeah… it gets labeled as “emotional” or “too much.” But I’ll take being too much over being disrespected any day.
The Glow-Up is Slow, But It’s Real
This journey isn’t about overnight success.
It’s about becoming. Every blog post. Every small win. Every day I keep going when I want to quit—that’s me writing my own legacy.
If you’re like me—navigating the in-between, dreaming big while clocking in—I see you.
You are not behind. You are not failing.
You are just in the middle of becoming something great.
Final Word: Keep Writing Your Story
Don’t let this world trick you into thinking you have to have it all figured out by 30.
You are not late. You are not lost.
You are in process, and that’s powerful.
Being a bad bitch isn’t about perfection—it’s about persistence.
It’s about knowing you’re destined for more and not giving up on yourself.
So keep dreaming. Keep pushing. Keep reminding folks not to try you.
And when it all unfolds—when the vision becomes real—just know:
This part? The struggle? The hustle?
It’s gonna sound so damn good in your hook one day.
What Chapter Are You In?
Drop a comment and let me know—are you in the building phase, the breakthrough, or somewhere in between? Either way, you’re not alone.
Xo,
Nina
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